Are Brandan & Mary Really Ready To Be Parents?


  • Brandan and Mary’s relationship on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way has been marked by trust issues and dishonesty, with Mary lying about her interactions with male friends.
  • Mary and Brandan disrespectfully ignored the wishes of Mary’s grandparents by being intimate after meeting in person, despite her grandparents asking her not to have sex with Brandan.
  • Both Brandan and Mary have displayed immaturity and jealousy in their relationship, with Brandan’s jealousy leading to Mary giving up her modeling career and scholarship, and their rush to have a baby and get married without resolving their differences may be a mistake.

Mary Demasu-ay and Brandan DeNuccio revealed they’re having their first baby together on 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way episode 10. Brandan, and Mary, both 23-year-olds, made their reality TV debut with season 5 of the spin-off in 2023. They quickly became popular because they were on video call with each other 24/7, even when they were eating, taking a bath, or sleeping. Brandan had met Mary on a dating app when she approached him after falling for his Harry Potter meets Justin Bieber good looks. Mary and Brandan were in a long-distance relationship for two years until he moved to the Philippines.

Brandan and Mary had both been cheated on before, which added to their trust issues. Mary, on the other hand, was lying to Brandan when she met her male friends. The rules of their courtship did not apply to Mary, as she was the one being possessive about Brandan and had also suggested the idea of video calling. Yet, Mary was the one who changed her mind to not wait until marriage to have sex. Mary took two pregnancy tests to confirm that she was pregnant. Mary asked Brandan whether he was sure they would be good parents; his reply made it clear that Brandan was unsure.

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Brandan & Mary Disrespected Her Elders By Being Intimate

Brandan and Mary from 90 Day Fiance The Other Way in front of mountains

Mary, who was raised by her grandparents, was told to be safe with a partner since they were getting old and weren’t able to take care of her. They asked Mary to not have sex with Brandan right after meeting him. Brandan would have to ask their permission to hold her hand or kiss Mary. However, Mary kissed and hugged Brandan at the airport anyway. Brandan admitted there was sexual tension between them, and they did get Mary’s grandparents’ blessings to share a room. Nonetheless, Brandan and Mary both didn’t care, especially since they had intimate phone calls almost every day.

Brandan & Mary Both Don’t Have Jobs

Montage of 90 Day Fiancé’s Brandan DeNuccio and Mary Demasu-ay

Brandan had many odd jobs back in America. He washed windows, bagged groceries, did food deliveries, etc. However, he lost most of his jobs because of his requirement to be on video call with Mary. He traveled to the Philippines with just $250 in his bank account. Meanwhile, Brandan also made Mary stop dancing out of his jealousy. Due to this, Mary lost her scholarship and had to drop out of college. Mary used to make a living by modeling, but Brandan was jealous of her pictures, so she had to stop that too.

Brandan & Mary Have Both Shown Immaturity

Mary claimed she wanted a baby and had “baby fever.” Brandan admitted he was “fully on board.” He thought trying to make a baby would make them a “better couple.” As they worry about their future together, the 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way pair haven’t been able to resolve their differences. Throughout the season, Mary has tried to control Brandan, even chastising him for looking in the direction of other women. Rushing to have a baby and getting married is something that could have waited until they were certain about each other.

90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way airs Mondays at 8 p.m. EST on TLC.